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I have a friend who likes going out with the awful ones because they pay more. 'That doesn't necessarily mean it will be more detrimental to you, it'll be just less emotionally rewarding. 'Half are awful misogynists who want to pay you to deal with them, because no one else will,' says Fancy. Nor are all sugar daddies pressed-for-time gentlemen who are just looking for a little affection that fits their hectic schedules. It adds another weird layer to an already weird dynamic of online dating.' It's this whole back and forth trying to figure out if someone's legit before wasting time and money. 'There's this kind of prevalent idea that female sex workers are just looking to rob guys,' Fancy says, 'so the guys on there are already pretty distrusting. Their worker counterparts are called 'Splenda babies' - women who promise a physical arrangement, but push for gifts and money without following through. In sugar parlance, those guys are 'salt daddies,' infamous for trying to con attention or sex out of women without giving anything in return. Seeking Arrangement is heavily populated by that kind of guy.'

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I'd get some kind of show of good faith upfront, because these guys, a lot of them are just weirdos looking for free sex, and they'll promise you money down the line. 'I usually only exchanged five messages to establish that we were looking for the same thing. 'I would never hang out with anyone, or do emotional labor like texting a bunch, for free,' she explains. She also had to take steps to make sure she wasn't being exploited. 'It avoided them being cops, and it allowed me to do some background checking.' She'd also use apps that allowed her to pay for more thorough online background checks - something that, now that we think of it, maybe everyone should do before dating online? it's always the providers who get busted, it's never the clients.'īefore she met potential sugar daddies in person, Fancy made a point of getting their Facebook or LinkedIn profiles. 'It's obviously much more dangerous for the woman involved. 'Just the nature of these kinds of transactional relationships is really tenuous,' she adds. If things go sideways and they decide to report me to police, I want the least amount of information on their person as possible.' 'I don't want to be a part of their life. And then she avoids much in the way of messaging after that. To protect herself, Fancy takes screenshots of initial interactions with sugar daddies, and always gets some form of written documentation (generally an email exchange). I have chronic tendinitis, my feet do weird things that they're not supposed to do.' 'My body is kind of falling apart, unfortunately. 'And maybe if times were particularly rough,' she adds, 'to help me with student loans, or rent for that matter.' She also has health issues that get in the way, even at age 23. Julia got into sugar dating to supplement a 40-hour-a-week factory job that just wasn't cutting it, hoping to be treated to the occasional dinner out as a break from her regular strictly subsistence diet. 'I had a guy who gave me $2,000 a week just to hang out with him and drink wine and listen to him cry about his ex.' You can debate among yourselves whether such an arrangement should actually pay more.ĥ You Have To Keep Proof Of The Agreements While Not Leaving Too Much Of A Paper Trail Fancy has gotten the occasional straightforward 'companion' gig. There are some exceptions to the sex requirement. You just have to be a little bit more subtle than saying the direct exchange of funds or goods.' You can say things like, 'I'm looking for a long-term traveling partner,' which means you want money to travel. Fancy breaks down the lingo: 'You would say, 'I'm interested in short-term hookups,' which means a pay-per-meet situation.

But much like texting that one former co-worker to see if he's still selling Adderall, you gotta be up on your euphemisms.